Possessive Personality Disorder is a pattern that wherein people are possessive with others and things in their lives. Sometimes it can be with just one person, but often it is about all of their relations. This all goes to control issues, jealousy, and self-esteem.

We exist in a basically dysfunctional reality in which people are categorizing and studying behavioral patterns to become more self aware and heal. Possessive Personality Disorder is another lesson in human relationships and how we function and experience. All things always come down to fear, insecurity, lower self esteem and other lower vibrational emotions and how we learn to recognize and overcome them.

Possessive Personality Disorder can begin in childhood but more often shows itself in teenage years in teenagers as personality disorders begin to show themselves on a more serious levels around puberty.

Examples of Possessive Personality Disorder from my clients:

A child has always gotten along well with its parents. The home environment has always been nurturing and loving, the parents building their world around the child. Then the child grows up and meets a partner for marriage or to live with. The new partner resents the relationship between the parents and their partner. They feel threatened. They sabotage. They have possessive personality disorder, "You are mine, so we do everything together, to the exclusion of most other people. Anyone who challenges your feelings towards me, or wants much of your time and energy, is a threat. If anyone comes in the way of the time we spend together, I will sabotage that relationship to get what I want, a one-on-one with you."

These people try to isolate their partner from other relationships to feel secure within their own. The healthy partner often has a difficult time understanding this types of pattern, especially when they have karma with both the parents.

Eventually the person who lives with someone with Possessive Personality Disorder has two choice, end the relationship, or split with the parents and family as there is karma with the partner that is stronger than with the parents, and must be fulfilled by the soul. This is heartbreaking to all concerned. Remember that your strongest karma, lessons, are with family members.

Now we come to the relationships between friends. Let us say, two women have been best friends for a long time. They share everything. Along comes another woman, or a boyfriend, who takes time away from this friendship. Issues develop and friendship become 'challenged', another word that describes our experiences here. Many things seem to be challenged. The friendship between the women now becomes outgrown and can end in drama. Many people report that lifetime friendships suddenly come to an end, become outgrown for one of the people involved, but they don't understand why. On occasion the friendships rekindle. For the most part they have served a purpose that worked at the time the people were friends, then moved on.

Have you ever been possessive? Do you feel you have unresolved issues? Are you afraid to let go, because of past disappointments? If you are involved in a possessive relationship, from parent to lover to friend, take a look at what is happening and if it is inhibiting you. Counseling could help the situation. Telling the person the relationship is over, will free you. You do not have to be controlled.