I want to wish all of the father's, father figures, and men taking paternity DNA tests to find out the truth, a Happy Father's Day. Through the years I have discovered that people have more issues with their fathers than anyone else. They include all sorts of abuse issues, mental, emotional, physical, sexual, substance, workaholic, lazy, off-the-boat personalities in a modern world, and so forth.
Father's Day creates an emotional window through which many experience, or revisit, relationships with their fathers, or other male figures who raised them. There's lots of clearing to be done when it comes to father figures. This goes to the patterns of our behavior today, as the first 20 years of our lives will instill in us the baggage we will carry for many years. We now recognize how dysfunctional most families are, the playgrounds in which we came to experience emotions, and the test of time when one can walk away emotionally free, no longer attached to their issues and illnesses.
Some people try to make peace with an abusive father, for their spiritual growth and healing, for the sake of other members of the family, for money or inheritance, guilt, and other dramas life creates. Others just walk away. Don't feel guilty if your father has undiagnosed and untreated mental illness or substance abuse issues, and you can't stay around anymore. Move on.
People change, so do men as they grow older, some more open and aware, some more anal and cranky. Always look at the family genetic code, where the father came from and how got to be the man he is. The answers are there. Patterns help explain everything. That is the most important part of coming into awareness. You can't heal until you understand ... then accept ... let go .. and move on. If you still live with an abusive father, on any level, it might be a good time to find out why you stay and what you can do to change your future. People do it every day.
If you are lucky enough to have a dad who is cool, knows how to parent and is loving, caring and balanced, don't forget to give him something special this year, to let him know you appreciate him.
Some people visit the cemetery where their father is laid to rest. If you read this blog, you know you don't have to go there. Call your dad and telepathically tell him how you feel. Tell him you know when he leaves signs that he is around. Tell him that you want to communicate. Tell him he is free to move into the light. Tell him you love him! Tell him you forgive him and understand.
June 2006
I was lucky to have had an amazing, loving, giving, and caring father. He had no emotional problems nor vices, just programmed for parenting. He crossed over in 1984, of cancer, at age 74.
Being with parents, or remembering one's childhood, thrusts souls into the emotional grid, emotions buried that may need to be released, especially when it comes to fathers or other male authority figures in our lives who do not understand us. This often goes to control and abuse issues, and how we respond as a result.
Your inner child is your emotional body. It guides ... sometimes in the wrong direction. Childhood presents us with our initial soul group, many of those players remaining with us until the end. We create other soul groups as we mature ... always in flux and change ... today's lessons, get rid of the needy people.
As many men are drinkers, who suffer from mental illness often created by life's frustrations, they develop anger and other issues that create fear in their children.
Anger is a very powerful negative emotion. When it is projected at you, its energies imprint all the way to the soul level. This, of course, goes to fear and other dysfunctional emotions that control one's behavior.
It's never easy ... but you have to walk away into a reality created by your own strengths and design.
When you are alone, please open a new Word Document and finish the sentences below. Let all of your emotions and thoughts go. Feel the clearing and healing.
As a result, my life ......................
In my future I foresee .....
In the United States, the driving force behind the establishment of the celebration of Father's Day was Mrs. Sonora Smart Dodd whose father, the Civil War veteran William Jackson Smart, had as a single parent raised his six children in Spokane, Washington. She was inspired by Anna Jarvis's efforts to establish Mother's Day.
Although she initially suggested June 5, the anniversary of her father's death, she did not provide the organizers with enough time to make arrangements, and the celebration was deferred to the third Sunday in June. Unofficial support from such figures as William Jennings Bryan was immediate and widespread. Woodrow Wilson was personally so feted by his family in 1916, and Calvin Coolidge recommended it as a national holiday in 1924. The all-male U.S. Congress, however, was mindful that passing a measure so favorable to males could be seen as a conflict of interest.
Lyndon Johnson made Father's Day a holiday in 1966, but the holiday was not officially recognized until the presidency of Richard Nixon in 1972.
Father's Day honors all men who play paternal roles and caretake children. This includes Biological Fathers, Grandfathers, Stepfathers, Big Brothers, Uncles, Adopted Fathers, Friends of the Family, and Neighbors.
Other Dates:
Spain: March 19
Belgium: the second Sunday in June
United Kingdom, Netherlands , Canada, Japan: the third Sunday in June
Taiwan: August 8
Australia, New Zealand: the first Sunday in September
Scandinavia: second Sunday in November
Thailand: December 5, birthday of King Bhumibol Adulyadej
Germany: Ascension Day
Father's Day Wikipedia
Family Guy: Today's Father Can't Win Live Science - June 15, 2007
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