Have you ever been bullied? Do you bully others?
Bullies have emotional problems and control issues. Most bullies have been bullied, abused, and sometimes played the victim role in childhood.
We tend to connect the bully with behavior of school age children, but unless the person resolves their issues, this pattern continues through life.
In business it can go to micromanagement.
In personal relationships, the partner gets bullied, dooming the relationship from the start.
The bully will generally attract a person who has a victim personality to play out their dramas.
Bulling often goes to aggressive behavior and violence.
The bully is often stopped by someone they are afraid of who 'steps up' and defends the person abused.
Seniors bully and are easily bullied. It is referred to as Senior Abuse.
When the bully becomes a Senior Citizen, the pattern may heighten. The brain is an electrochemical machine that dictates behavior based on ones DNA codes and social conditioning. As one ages, and the brain ceases the censor and control violent behavior, it will increase, especially for these who have a chemical balance. This combined with the physical pain many seniors have, will cause the bully to continue to act out, often without provocation.
As with everything we know about human behavior today, the bully at any age needs professional help.
Mean old girls: Seniors who bully MSNBC - February 17, 2011
While much scrutiny and study has been devoted to bullying in grade school and high school these last few years, less attention has been paid to another category of bullies: those with gray hair, false teeth, hearing aids and canes. But according to experts, gray-haired bullies do exist and, as with their younger counterparts, their behavior can run the gamut from verbal intimidation to physical violence.
Estimated 10 to 20 percent of seniors bullied. There's little published research on elderly bullying, but Bonifas estimates about 10 to 20 percent of seniors have experienced some type of senior-to-senior aggression in an institutional setting, much of it verbal abuse.
Both men and women can bully, but women tend towards passive-aggressive behavior like gossiping and whispering about people when they enter a room while men are more in your face. It doesnÕt always stop at back-biting and bickering. Seniors have also been the victims of violence, sometimes over something as trivial as a coveted spot at the dinner table.
Bullying is a form of abuse. It involves repeated acts over time attempting to create or enforce one person's (or group's) power over another person (or group) , thus an "imbalance of power". The "imbalance of power" may be social power and/or physical power. The victim of bullying is sometimes referred to as a target. Bullying types of behavior are often rooted in a would-be bully's inability to empathize with those whom he or she would target.
Bullying consists of three basic types of abuse Š emotional, verbal and physical. It typically involves subtle methods of coercion such as intimidation. Bullying can be defined in many different ways. Although the UK currently has no legal definition of bullying, some US states have laws against it.
Bullying ranges from simple one on one bullying to more complex bullying in which the bully may have one or more 'lieutenants' who may seem to be willing to assist the primary bully in his bullying activities. Bullying in school and the workplace is also referred to as peer abuse. Robert W. Fuller has analyzed bullying in the context of rankism.
Bullying can occur in any context in which human beings interact with each other. This includes school, church, family, the workplace, home and neighborhoods. It is even a common push factor in migration. Bullying can exist between social groups, social classes and even between countries (see Jingoism). In fact on an international scale, perceived or real imbalances of power between nations, in both economic systems and in treaty systems, are often cited as some of the primary causes of both World War I and World War II. Put simply, historically and from this perspective, certain international 'bullying' between nations is seen as having resulted in at least two very major and costly international wars.
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