Caring For the Elderly

Sometimes senior citizens are able to live normal lives and care for themselves, but as most people age, they need caretakers at some point.

In 2021 programs were set up for adult children to take care of their elderly parents or other relatives to be reimbursed by the government allowing them to stay home.

Few people are capable of - or want to live with and take care of an elderly person who is ill and generally difficult deal with due to physical and emotional problems, that often require more care than they can provide. It is hard to see someone you love slip away. With the aid of a good home attendant the burden is eased.

Not everyone is a caretaker. Some can caretake children, but not the people with special needs and illnesses, at any age. Others have no problem caring for an older person with whom they feel a soul connection.

For some the journey is about taking care of others, family, friends, at work, eventually causing them to burn out and wonder, "Who is going to take care of me when I get old." Many never leave home, and wonder when their life will begin, not realizing they are here to act as parental caretakers.

As we known most people live longer and healthier lives as compared to past generations. Each year advancements in science and technology, better health care combining western medicine with holistic healing, greater awareness of how to care for ourselves physically and emotionally, are all part of the process that increases the life expectancy of humans. The Internet is an important tool to that end.

Lack of a caretaker is a serious problem for older people who have chronic conditions and limitations on their ability to care for themselves and their homes. Their problems are often compounded by increased medical costs due to poor health and the need for more supportive services.

Unfortunately, those who are most vulnerable are also most likely to live alone and to have limited incomes. Eighty percent of those living alone are women and nearly half of people aged 85 or older live alone. Older women, the very old, and minority elderly, have, on average, the lowest incomes among the older population which severely limits their ability to purchase the health care, goods, services, and housing options which could help them to remain independent. There are agencies that supply aid to these people.

The Caretakers

Taking care of the elderly is not easy. Emotional issues, buried for decades come to the fore and are tested. Money, inheritance, is often a generating factor in the relationship. In most cases there is a love behind the pain, which may never be shown, or may be spoke about before the person crosses over. Learning to say, "I love you" or "Forgive me", is very important to the souls involved.

Many people force themselves to be caretakers, relieved when the experience is over, but knowing it is why they are here, or, that there is just no one else to do it.

caretaking the elderly is difficult and depressing much of the time. Watching someone die is not easy, especially if you love them. We all have our limitations.

Sometimes caretaking a senior means living in their home, which is paid for, combined with the benefits, allow the caretaker to remove themselves from the pressure and responsibilities of the work place. When the person crosses over, and the money is gone, or given away to the government, all sorts of new issues must be dealt with by the caretaker, finances, or feeling others have taken money that should have been theirs after years of caretaking.

Many caretakers have not created a family of their own, so life becomes meaningless. Many are lost and alone never finding themselves as they wander through life. They may have jobs, friends, and an interest or two, but they are lost once the karma is over. They wonder why they are here. Often they turn to metaphysical studies to help bring deeper meaning to their lives. Things become boring and they get depressed. Many 'leave' early to rejoin the person who died.

One client I read came to me when his mother was dying. He was forty years old. She died a month later. He died of a heart attack one week after she died. Souls do travel in groups, and often feel abandoned when there are no other members of their soul group here.

caretaking an aging parent, while trying to handle your other responsibilities is often as difficult as the parent who raises the child alone and struggles to provide proper care and attention. Life moves in these cycles, through time.

When does the body age? The body starts to break down physically, when the emotional and spiritual bodies breakdown, and the soul starts to release from the physical grid. The connection looks like static electricity on the grid, the electromagnetic flow, our aura, inhibited. It's like being plugged into the grid, but there is a short in the wiring.

This does not necessarily have to occur when someone is old. It occurs when people do not function and need caretakers. Some people are challenged from birth and require special caretaking all of their experience in the physical. The soul determines how the physical body will perform and how needy it will be, and the type of physical experience the soul will have in that body.


A client came to see me for a reading, just after her mother had crossed over, after six years of dealing with Alzheimer's, of which my client was the primary caretaker. She came to me to feel assured that her mother was at peace on the other side. Though the frequency of the mother had come to her in dream, which is the norm, my client needed to speak to her mother through me. As I talked to my client's mother, her spirit started moving things around (telekinesis), such as my client's umbrella which moved across the entrance hallway with a bang. Obviously my client's mother wanted to make herself known - and she brought her messages telepathically to me.

The souls of those afflicted with Alzheimer's generally are mostly on the other side already. With Alzheimer's the physical bodies/projections seem to linger after consciousness slowly leaves the physical form. Watching the body slowly disintegrate, due to the absence of conscious awareness, is not easy.

The soul can release from the physical form quickly with a thump sound, releasing the hermetic seal that attaches it to the physical body or gradually, leaving the physical body by mentally disconnecting.

Why do souls who are not functioning remain in the physical? As all is programmed experience in a simulation - it simply is not their time to leave whether they are healthy or not. Emotionally it appears as if their symbiotic relationship keeps them grounded here.