Tough Love, Is Love Ever Easy?
Tough Love is about being firm with your children, so they know you still love them, yet have to put your foot down when they are acting improperly.
It would take pages to write about all that is wrong in the dynamics between parents and children especially with teenagers those who are abused, or suffer emotional problems and chemical imbalances, and now begin to rebel. Those with bi-polar disorder and other compulsive disorders will openly display them from puberty on.
The child may have to be placed in a hospital or the like, for a period of time. ADD and ADHD should have been long diagnosed while the child was young, to overcome learning disabilities.
To look at a child's behavior is to look at the parents, or in many cases, one of the parents, and the abuse suffered.
The DNA of both parents, and the acquired environmental background of both, must be considered. If you had baby with someone who is emotionally unstable, and has an addictive personal, it will most likely produce a child with similar problems. This seems stronger with male offspring. Be careful who you chose to have a baby with.
One must be self-assertive and strong when handling dysfunctional teens. Time to make decisions with the head not the heart. Anyway you cut it, they will be pissed off at you, so try to do the right thing and as I always say, get professional help.
Tough Love seems to refer to parents and people in general who cannot say No, be assertive with those around them, and allows everyone 'walk all over them.'
Children, especially teenagers, have never been easy to understand and raise, especially as the adults around them struggle with their own issues.
Many adults are fearful of their teenage children, especially when they are fully grown.
There is no easy way to love and express love when the soul is being abused, at any age. Teens want to test you at every turn. Can you pass the test?
Issues must to be dealt with as most do not go away, but magnify as teens get older and stronger, and want to be free. Teens have issues which need to be addressed by parents and counselors. The choices are, address the issues, or wait until something really bad happens and you run out of options.
Living with a child in a Tough Love situation? Then you both have issues.
Our experience in 3D is about challenges and how we deal with them. Tough Love can work, but understanding, compassion, and spiritual connection, goes much farther.
Good luck and hang tough!
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